To some extent yesDo you believe that for most marriages to last, the wife must be submissive and obedient to her husband?
You want to know what I think of you crap-*** whack-jobs who voted for this **** of an answer as the best answer? Well, I think you're idiots. Weak idiots. INFERIOR, and UNDESERVING OF LIFE.
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Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
--Genesis 2:24
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it
--Ephesians 5:21-33
The above are from the good Bible
Below is from Me:
The Husband is the head of the house, but the woman is the neck that controls the head...
--Me
I like highly-intelligent men who offer good guidance and protection.
But what if the wife submits to the husband's decision on something, and it is a bad decision? We are all only human, and how could the husband possibly be ';right'; ALL the time?
What if there are times the wife is right, and the husband is wrong? Does that mean she should go with what he wants to do, even if she knows, he is mistaken on something, and something bad will happen if she doesn't speak up?
Yes, people love to hear advice in situations where they are confused, or scared, unknowledgable on a subject, or just don't know what to do...including advice from their spouse.
But is it really fun to be bossed-around? Most would say, no, it is not.
Yes...... and no...... not the way it seems you think of it.
Let me explain....
Ephesians 5:22-33 : Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church鈥?for we are members of his body. ';For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.'; This is a profound mystery鈥攂ut I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
It says that men are the head of the house and women should submit to their husbands. The parts you are misinterpreting is what exactly head of household and submission are meant to be. It does NOT mean he is ';boss'; or ';ruler'; or the ';king';. It doesn't mean what he says goes and when he says jump she says ';how high?';. It does NOT mean his way or the highway. It means he is supposed to ';lead by example';. It means that he is the one responsible for the household. It means he is supposed to be the provider and protector of his family. It means he is supposed to love, honor and respect his wife as he does himself and God. The wife is supposed to be his support. To love him, respect him, honor him, help him, be there for him. They are meant to work TOGETHER, in unity, as ';ONE FLESH';, 50/50.
I Corinthians 11:11-12 : Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. For as the woman was from the man, even so the man also is through the woman; but all things are from God.
This means that men and women were meant to be each other's companions, not competitors. They are seperate, yet equal puzzle pieces that are meant to come together and ';complete'; one another.
So while it says submit to him and his needs, it also says he is to respect her, her needs, her feelings. To love and cherish, honor and respect each other. Give and Take, Back and Forth, It's like a Dance.
Proverbs, I Peter, I Timothy, Genesis, Colossians, Ephesians, Titus, Corinthians, and several other books of the Bible have passages pertaining to the roles of husband and wife in a relationship as well as how they should treat each other and their families.
I believe that for marriages to last husband must love and respect his wife, and she must love and respect him. If they are kind, tolerant, forbearing and considerate of each other, without getting bogged down in rhetoric and hitting each other over the head with Bible verses, then there is every prospect of a long and happy marriage.
No, I don't. This creates not happiness, but a woman who is too scared, incapable, and insecure to take care of herself and make her own decisions. Staying because you're basically a child is need, not happiness, and not love. Much better for two equals to be together because they want to be, not because of dependency.
I don't believe in the Bible anyway, but I was raised a minister's daughter and I know enough to realize that it was written at a time women were not educated and men were the only legal entities - it was a different world. Because of the different ways men and women were raised, men were better prepared to make decisions. Now, women are as well educated as men (even better, the way things are going, because guys are getting lazy) and as well prepared for careers and dealing with the world, so that old rule is irrelevant.
Oh, dear god no!
Marriage is a partnership, not an ownership.
In order for a marriage to work it has to be equal, unless your a traditionalist and your wife is too.
All couples are different, and they should decide who's the ';head'; of the household between themselves.
To some extent - yes this is true.
It does not mean that the man should abuse that power either .. .
All marriages are a give and take . . . a sort of understanding of the ';roles'; of each person.
My husband is the head of our household - though I by no means role over and take orders (he isn't like that)
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~S
That's fine if you believe God has a plan. If you do, do you really think he would want someone to be submissive and the other controlling? I don't think so.
Now why would I want to be with someone, my whole life, who is submissive?? What kind of life would that be. I would want someone to share and do things with, not someone to boss around. That would suck, especially if your the one being bossed around.
I';m a Christian who loves Jesus with all my heart, mind, and soul. However, Jesus did not treat women as lesser beings; He treated them with respect as people with brains. We are redeemed by Jesus from the curse of the law. Part of the curse was, ';Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you';. So no, there is no Biblical basis in Jesus' words to support that notion. Paul talks about this, but he also says in several places that he isn't positive this is God, but Paul speaking his own opinion. In Christ there is no male or female, Jew or Gentile, slave or free. So for one spouse to be head over the other is also not sensible.
';The Total Woman'; by Maribelle Morgan is a textbook on manipulation techniques. If your man automatically wins any disagreement based on the style of his plumbing, then the only way to have any control over your life at all is to manipulate using sex as a bargaining tool. And it is a powerful one. Better to avoid a situation in the first place where a woman feels the need to use sex as a means of having some say in her life.
Absolutely not. I have been married for 21 years and my wife and I have an equal partnership and we are in it for the long haul. We make decisions together. I believe that the type of marriage you speak of can also work if both partners agree to it.
A marriage is where the partners are equal!
Although it is natural for a male to try to dominate, Both parties have the same rights.
It depends on the nature of the relationship.
Some partners let the other dominate and have no problem with it, they can be female or male .
that is why you will be alone for a very long time, thinking that way. it should be 50/50! women are not here for you to control, it was a woman that gave you life, it is a woman that will give your child life, and you want to treat her that way?
Um, no. Take a look at a calendar ... notice the date. You are attempting to live in another time and it just doesn't work. My partner has no ';authority'; over me ... nor I over him. What we have is mutual respect. God doesn't even ever enter into it for us to have that either. And we work just fine. Go figure.
what i'm curious about is where (exact passage) does it say this (in the Bible) I know it DOES say that a woman should submit to her husband AND the husband should submit to his wife. It goes both ways.
No. I'd say that's a sure fire recipe for a short term marriage.
Sooner or later, the wife is going to go crazy and cut off his penis and throw it out the window of a moving car.
If i submitted to my husbands authority nothing would get done, no bills would be paid and we'd all starve, not sure that's part of Gods plan. I think he went a bit wrong when creating some of the males of our species!
No, I don't think that all. I think in all marriages compromising is best.
Some women do it in a way that makes their husband thinks he's calling the shots....but what ever works for you.
not all the time it is also up to the husband to respect the wife in every way
thank god we have diff rent gods and you live in lalaland, we are all the same in gods eyes so don't put god in it it's the humans mind that make up all this dumb@ss crap about woman submissivity
Marriage is a two way street....no one should be submitting to anyone. Marriage is all about partnership and unity. It's not an army where ranks are assigned. Geez...Get out of 1800s.
If you know that you are dominant then get a submissive one and vise versa. dont get someone whose more dominat with you coz it aint workin.
Only if the man has a brain. Otherwise let the one with the most sense rule...gently and with graciousness.
yes, for a marriage to last the woman can't be a complete bit%26lt;h all the time.
No that's not so,instead both must be caring and understanding
Surely your religion doesn't condone you being a male chauvinist pig.
No. But giving him the ILLUSION that he calls the shots doesn't hurt.
Yeah right... god plans my as*. Get your head out of your as* and get into the current century.
you will not find anyone here that would agree with this ridiculous notion
This made me laugh out loud. Thanks for that!
God's plan my ****.
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