How can I handle my overbearing, control freak of a husband?

I can mow 2 acres of grass with a push mower, but if I don't do the dishes, I am lazy. I have to ask for every penny that I need and I have to account where every penny goes. I am in college and maintain a 4.0. I take good care of our 2 children. I am to the point where I want to say ';kiss my a**!';, but I am afraid to because he might knock me out.How can I handle my overbearing, control freak of a husband?
knock u out, huh? i think u just answered ur own question!How can I handle my overbearing, control freak of a husband?
If you are scared he will ';knock you out'; you don't need to be there in the first place. I suggest you and him have a sit down heart to heart. Write down all the things you want to discuss or say to him first. That way you have help when it comes time to actually do it. Try to not yell or b*tch. Try to be calm and treat it like ';Is this the way we want it to be?';. Ask him if he's happy with how things are going.


If he is uncommunicative, I recommend going to a family therapist to see if they have more success getting your husband to participate.


If he does become violent....leave. No hesitations. You have to be the grown up and do what's best for your kids and yourself. Maybe you leaving will shake him up some. Maybe not. But as I mentioned, this is for the health and well being of your children.
You don't need to ';handle'; him, you need to divorce him. Get yourself a good lawyer. At the very least, start documenting each and every incident of abuse so you have a record of what is happening.





However, if you recognize this situation as being bad and you have 2 kids, you need to put your children first and get them out of there. If he will ';knock you out'; he will do the same to your kids.
move in with a friend, take the kids, get a divorce, get custody.
Why would you want to live with an a$$hole like that? Get out now while you still have a chance to lead a normal life. Get out like the house is on fire. Don't walk -- RUN. I'm not kidding. Pack your stuff, put your kids in the car and go live with Mom or a relative while you begin planning a new life. A husband like that not only screws you up, but screws up your kids too.
If you are afraid then you need to get help before you get out. There are many hotlines to help women who need to get out of a nasty situation. If he is hitting you, belittling you or any combination of that-you do not deserve that nor do your children. I don't know all the facts, but from what you describe, you need to get out. If you are seriously concerned about abuse, please call for help and make a plan so that you can leave safely.
I don't know honey, I have been trying to figure it out for twenty years.





The only thing I would say, is kiss his ***, make him feel like a greek god lover and maybe, maybe you may get a little leadway or a little control of your own.





Bless you, I know where you are coming from.